Happy Birthday Lire! 

As promised early this morning I will add another message for you. Congratulations on reaching another milestone in your life. I know you've been through a lot like super duper a lot. For the past few years, I have always wished you the best but I will write something completely different this year different in a way that it will all depend on how you do things after you've heard my thoughts. 

I might not know all the things that has been happening in your life but so far I've heard a lot of abuse, demoralizing words said to you, insults thrown at you, good works and efforts left unappreciated and etc. This shouldn't be something that has to be tolerated especially when you as an individual can do something about it. Yes, forgiving, trusting and loving people is great but not at the expense of your dignity and self-worth. I know this should be filled with some aspiring words since it is your birthday but I want this to also be an outlet to remind you that, "You get what you expect and you deserve what you tolerate". This phrase is not meant to curse you for what you've been through but to make you realize that you will go through the same thing over and over if you don't know how to put a stop to it. 

Sometimes we don't get what we want other times we never even get to take a step further from it but it doesn't always mean that there's no other way, no alternative. But the more you absorb, hear, and tolerate the abuse the more you get used to it. The more it feels like it's the norm. I'm not saying you go ahead and just confront every single one of those people who have done that to you. But, you can always walk away from those if you ever decided to choose yourself. 

Also, not to be so pessimistic but I hope you don't put too much weight on people and their words of promises, unless there's a written and signed contract with a seal from an attorney, their words are nothing and can be revoked anytime they want. It's good to put some trust here and there but please help yourself and if it's a repeat offender of broken promises I don't recommend putting too much hope in their words.

At the end of the day, no matter what I say it will always boil down to your decision, whether you continue to be like that or you'd start over and completely move forward. I hope you'd learn from people and what they've done. I hope you don't become a doormat who can't stand up for herself and just stay still while others are trampling you like it's normal. Put yourself first not just physically but also mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I hope in the future I won't end up saying words like, "told you so", "guess I'm right", or "you never learned". Revisit your past experiences and learn from it. I want to see you live a happy fulfilled life, not miserable and unfortunate. 

Happy Birthday again lire! I hope you spend the day and everyday with only happiness and fulfillment. May you find the will to go beyond for yourself. I pray that God will help you find the way. I love you ♥ xoxo